Are You Limiting Your Level Of Joy?

It sounds crazy, but believe it or not, many people are limiting their own level of joy.

Yes, many people have a low tolerance of joy. You might think, why, who would do that? Who doesn’t want more happiness and joy? The reason why we don’t have more happiness and joy is because we haven’t intentionally chosen it or allowed ourselves to develop it.

Many people spend so much time trying to fix current problems, getting by, surviving, or getting through each day, they don’t take the time to develop joy. Whatever we focus our energy on, we will get more of it. Many focus on what they don’t want each day. They are focusing on avoiding pain and suffering by stuffing their emotions down, hiding, masking and not feeling just so they can ‘get by’ and ‘survive’. Can you see that by not intentionally choosing a higher quality state of being, we are choosing to create the default, which is mediocrity and some times drama? We know we have chosen mediocrity when we feel guilty and uncomfortable when we slow down, play, and rest. We know when we have been passive when we are frustrated, irritated and unfulfilled. We are so use to living a half life that it becomes our NORM!

Our mind may hope we are progressing and trying to move forward when we are ‘working hard’. If our mind really did choose joy and happiness, then we would be experiencing it already. Limited joy is physically manifested in limited poor health, wellness, finances, and relationships too.

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Your Range Of Joy

I have learned over the years, that our capacity for joy is limited by the direct inverse depth of our sorrows. To the depth of our sorrows, is the possible height of our joys. ¹ Many of us are so scared to go too deep in sorrows because it might be too painful or unbearable, therefore the height of our joy is equal to the shallowness of our sorrows. It is like living in our narrow and limited emotional range. Up a little, down a little. Up a little, down a little. You see that limitation when people refuse to ‘talk’ about themselves or their problems, don’t want to be vulnerable, they don’t take risks, scared of change, don’t try new things, holding back, hold onto fears, being critical, and just focusing on what is wrong with the world. They don’t have happy solutions to any of the problems because they are not happy themselves.

I am not suggesting that we all go out, do extreme sports and hurt ourselves. To the contrary, we don’t need to go out and find it, the perfect unique lessons will come to us naturally. As we go about our daily activities FOCUSED on creating more joy, peace, and happiness, we will be given opportunities to overcome obstacles. Don’t hide from it or ignore it. Sit in it and allow it to pass through you. God allows us to have pain and suffering for our benefit.

Why do we need to have a greater level of joy?

Heavenly Father wants us to have joy. Like most parents, we work hard, sacrifice so that our kids can be blessed and be happy. Heavenly Father is the same way! He has prepared all things, including life challenges, for our benefit. The best thing we can do is the accept God’s gifts and create a joyful life with it. When we are joyful, we are able to be creative and brilliant ideas will form.

Joy isn’t a destination. It is a state of being. We can always increase this state of being.

‘Men are that they might have joy.’ 2 Ne. 2:25.²

Adam declared:

“Blessed be the name of God, for because of my transgression my eyes are opened, and in this life I shall have joy, and again in the flesh I shall see God.

And Eve said:

Were it not for our transgression we never should have had seed, and never should have known good and evil, and the joy of our redemption, and the eternal life which God giveth unto all the obedient.” Moses 5:10-11³

Joy is a very high vibrating emotion. When we vibrate high, we simply attract everything that is high vibrational too. When we connect to God and receive His love and light, our five fundamental human needs of love, importance, belonging, security/Variety and power of autonomy will all be met. When those fundamental human needs are met, we no longer need to hook onto another human to satisfy that. You’ve transcended and unattached to the world. In this state of ascension, you can see things for what they really are.

What is JOY?

I believe it is an energy of lasting happiness combined with peace from receiving the fullness of truth and light. It is a satisfying joy that we feel deep in our heart regardless of any situation or circumstances. It isn’t like the short lived fun of the world. I feel it in my heart, deep in my gut and it radiates outwards.

Joy is a condition of great happiness coming from righteous living. The purpose of mortal life is for all people to have joy⁴.

I believe a fullness of joy will come only through alignment with Jesus Christ (John 15:11; D&C 93:33–34; 101:36).

The meek also shall increase their joy in the Lord, Isaiah 29:19 (2 Ne. 27:30).

Your joy no man taketh away from you, John 16:22.

The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, Galatians 5:22.

The fruit thereof filled my soul with exceedingly great joy, 1 Ne. 8:12.

The joy of the righteous shall be full forever, 2 Ne. 9:18.

They may dwell with God in a state of never-ending happiness, Mosiah 2:41.

I will give up all that I possess that I may receive this great joy, Alma 22:15.

Perhaps I may be an instrument in the hands of God to bring some soul to repentance, and this is my joy, Alma 29:9.

What joy, and what marvelous light I beheld, Alma 36:20.

My Spirit shall fill your soul with joy, D&C 11:13.

How great shall be your joy with him in the kingdom of my Father, D&C 18:15–16.

In this world your joy is not full, but in me your joy is full, D&C 101:36.

In this life I shall have joy, Moses 5:10–11.

Joy Should Be Part of Our Core Beliefs

We can and should have joy in this life! View all experiences as opportunities for our own growth and eventual joy. That is the purpose of them. Those discomforts will pass quickly when our eyes are focused on creating joy.

In that light, we can adopt the core belief and mindset that we are ‘victors-and-everything-is-solvable-with-God’s-help’. Believe that our heart is strong enough even if it breaks, it can be mended by God. We are asked to come to God with a ‘broken heart’ and ‘contrite spirit.’⁵ and He will help us mend it. Our heart will be stronger and more capable of love, empathy, joy, peace and charity. We will never be tried beyond our ability to withstand, so don’t hide from trials.

This is one of the reasons why I allow my children to experience some discomforts on their own. I seek for divine guidance to know when to help and when not to help. I want my children to learn resilience and responsibility. I know, just like me, they will find solutions with God’s help. When God is in our heart, we will have the power to find solutions to any concern. This is also how I lead my Earth Angel community.

When I mentor or coach people, I allow them to go through their own ‘refining fires’ too. They may feel frustrated, disappointed, tired, worried, mad and all sorts of negative emotions. I must allow them to experience that growth as I guide them through it. It is not unloving, in fact, it is more loving. Their current problem will go away and possibly be insignificant soon, but their newfound resilience and responsibility skills will bless them for life. If I take the discomforts away from them, they will need to be tried again later on because I robed them of this current opportunity that God blessed them with. Try to get out to the way! God knows what He is doing.

A valuable skill is to recognize the situation for what it is without labeling it as bad, obstacle, tragic, horrible or whatever. Recognize it, allow yourself to experience it, and focus on the joy on the other side of it. Have the faith to know that JOY is on the other side of that opportunity.

Experiencing the pain is one side of the spectrum, we need to learn how to develop the other side too for greater joy. In order to strengthen and internalize the new belief that we chosen, of having greater joy, peace, and happiness, we need to take some actions.

How to Create more joy?

Here are some actions that I feel we can take to intentionally choose to develop more joy and greater happiness:

1. Choose joy. Embrace the power of choice to change from your current level of being. Choose to enjoy learning, growing, progressing and changing into a better version of you daily. This will give you reason to take risks, be brave, and have adventures.

2. Develop a stronger connection to God helps us be happier. When God is first, front, and center in our lives, we are easily guided and abundantly provided for. When we are united with Him, we are inspired to action. With every blessing, simply accept and receive gratefully trusting in His wisdom. To establish a stronger connection to God; pray to Him, listen to Him, think about Him, read about Him, and speak about Him. We create a stronger and stronger connection to divine powers by being obedient to God’s commandments, especially be obedient to the personal daily divine directives. We are designed to connect to Him. A stronger connection to God will eventually mean a stronger relationship to yourself and others. Stronger relationships with God and others mean more joy! We really can have a sweet loving relationship with our spouse, children, other family and friends. Connecting to God nourishes you on the spiritual level.

3. Physically, nourish your body by eating & drinking well. Eat healthful foods when you are hungry and stopping when you are full. Enjoying foods without guilt or overly restricting yourself allows in more joy. Drink clean healthful drinks. Don’t say, I can’t afford a water filter. Say, ‘I am worthy of clean water and fresh juices.’

4. Sleep enough. Trust God enough to take over while you rest and repair. The refreshed body knows how to produce more happy hormones for even more joy!

5. Taking the proactive approach to health by using supplements and essential oils daily. Reject the symptom management approach. Don’t live with mediocre health and wait till you get sick or uncomfortable to fix problems. Expect a higher level of energy each day. Allow and expect to be stronger, leaner, and more attractive body. Don’t say, ‘I can’t afford…’ Say, ‘I allow myself to have optimal health. I will make sure optimal health happens for me and my family.’ Allow yourself to live a wellness lifestyle with green cleaning and personal care products. Funds and resources will come.

6. Allow yourself to be blessed and abundant. Instead of saying, ‘I don’t want a lot of money.’ I say, ‘If God wants me to do His work, He will provide abundantly for me to accomplish that work.’ This is humility and surrender. Bring it on, if He thinks I can handle it, then I will. Imagine all the good we can do when we have greater resources. Focus on the good you can do. Imagine doubling your income. Does that make you uncomfortable? If so, resolve it. God is rich, He is ready to bless us with whatever we ask for but we have be willing to receive it.

7. Develop a positive, proactive, victor mentality. Listen to yourself. Hear the words you think and speak. Don’t say, ‘Life is crazy. Life is so busy.’ You will create more crazy and busy. Add this to your vocabulary: I will, I can, I choose, I allow, let’s figure this one out, let’s make it happen, there is a way, there is a solution, this will be fun, this will be easy, love, peace, joy, standards, etc.

8. Serve with your gifts and talents. We find greater fulfillment when we serve others. In fact, we complete our healing when we serve and help others heal. We find ourselves when we lose ourselves in the service of others. Serve wisely with your God-given gifts and talents. You are not asked to do anything beyond your scope.

8. Visualize happiness, joy, and peace. Our mind thinks in pictures. Make a vision board that you can see daily. Visualize in the morning meditations and imagine what your ideal life looks like as you fall asleep each night. The subconscious mind will go to work and create the reality from what you are seeing in your mind.

9. Use Essential oils to feel more happy. Essential oils to open the heart and allow in greater joy: Peace, Geranium, Rose, Ylang Ylang, Roman Chamomile, Elevation, Citrus Bloom

My friend, we can be happy when we connect to God. With divine downloads we can confidently focus on developing the true peace, joy and happiness. Guess what, when we focus on joy, happiness, and peace, we actually get it! God wants us to be happy so we need to practice happy now. God will help with the “how to’s,” we just need to be clear on the ‘what.’