- Why are we sometimes so indecisive?
- How do some people make decisions so quickly?
- How can we be more confident and decisive?
Why are we sometimes indecisive?
When I do Energy Balancing Sessions with people, I am sometimes perplexed as to why some people remain so stuck. They simple won’t make decisions to take the actions necessary and move forward, even if it’s just a small step, while on the other hand, others move forward in leaps and bounds.
I discovered that these people who are stuck are not only afraid of making mistakes but they are hiding from deeper reasons that really need to be resolved! These deeper reasons are somethings they’ve been hiding from so they may or may not be aware of it. The good news is these deeper reasons can be resolved permanently.
Why are we so afraid of making mistakes?
If people didn’t have kind, faith-filled, brave, trusting, self-aware parents, they may feel afraid of making mistakes because their fearful parents most likely have been punishing them for every single mistake they’ve ever made.
“Spare the rod, spoil the child.” That outdated parenting motto has caused a lot of damage in people. That parenting style produces people who do not feel safe making mistakes, insecure and unhappy people.
Instead, it creates people who:
- hold ourselves back with shame
- hide behind excuses and addictions
- rely on other people to make the decision for them
- blame and criticize themselves and others
- self-sabotage, self-punish, and self-reject
With this kind of upbringing, we always want be overly cautious and even overly suspicious? Naturally this leads to perfection paralysis, where we won’t make decisions if we aren’t sure it will be the best right decision because we want to minimize the risk of being punished.
What is the real pain behind the punishments?
As a child, we were too young to make up our minds yet of who we are and how to think about ourselves, so we are left to rely on the opinions of our caregivers about our identity.
If your caregivers were very kind, faith-filled, self-aware, and brave, you may have become a faith-filled, decisive, and confident adult. However, if you had the opposite childhood experience then you may have received some negative subconscious programing.
I learned that the real pain of the punishments are the negative subconscious message we have unintentionally adopted and create in our minds.
I noticed these punishments of children can lead them to believe in lies such as these:
- you are not good enough
- you are bad
- you are unworthy of love
- you are not important
- you don’t belong
- you are less than
- you can’t be trusted
- you are disqualified
- you should be fearful
- love is conditional
- love is earned
- you are not smart enough to make the right decisions yourself
- you are small and weak
- …and other similar lies.
When these false beliefs are at the core of us, it causes us pain. This is why we are afraid of facing punishment. Punishment reminds us of these things we still believe about ourselves in the subconscious. I bet, reading some of these things may have caused your gut to be knotted and your heart to be pained right? Do you hear these things repeated in your mind from time to time?
You may have experienced these pains at home, at school, at church or anywhere else.
What can we do to fix this?
I believe that we can heal and reprogram ourselves from these childhood traumas and experiences. I’ve spent many years, helping people in this way. Here are my top 9 solutions.
- Pray and connect to God for truth, power, love and guidance.
- Use your power of choice to change your false beliefs about yourself. Please believe that you are good enough for God. It isn’t about who you are, it is about who God is.
- Create a different meaning to ‘mistakes.’ May I suggest, defining mistakes as simply meaning a sign of growth and change. If we are not making mistakes then we are not taking actions to progress. Mistakes are a necessary part of growth.
- Value progression and sanctification over comfort. Comfort will come when we are progressing and aligned to our divine potential. Read more about this topic here.
- Learn to feel your heart, confirm with your gut and then move forward with faith. Read about the order of alignment here.
- Learn to look for light as you move through the grey. Read more about it here.
- Make it safe for you to make mistakes. Choose now to speak kindly to yourself if and when you do make mistakes. Being critical of yourself has never encouraged you to enthusiastically move forward, has it? Criticism has only discouraged us from taking actions. Be your best cheerleader and coach.
- Learn the skills of solution seeking. When we have positive beliefs and thoughts, our eyes and minds easily find solutions to problems.
- Do Energy Balancing with Faith work on yourself. Please learn how to do it if you don’t know how. If you would like to experience it, please book a time with a practitioner.
Energy Balancing with Faith
If you are interested in self healing at the spiritual and emotional levels, I encourage you to take the Energy Balancing with Faith course. This is an inspired course to help you hone your faith-filled personal development skills. This is energy balancing using essential oils and other tools. Release the subconscious self-imposed limitations. Help yourself and others live an intentionally happier, healthier, and holier life.
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