Relief for Parents

Much of the stress and anxiety of good parents are connected to the worry that they aren’t doing enough for their children and/or the fear of messing their own children up.

Most good parents know they want their kids to be loved, happy, and successful.  To achieve that, we follow society’s check list of what ‘good parents’ should do.  Unfortunately, there are a lot of pressures we place on ourselves because that list is never ending.  We are often frustrated, disappointed, and stressed because we focus on what we haven’t been able to provide yet.  We want our kids to have everything and want for nothing.  We want to see them well rounded and skilled in many areas.

Besides the basic healthy foods, clothing and shelter, here is a list of common things ‘good parents’ think they need to provide:

• High quality clothing and other material needs.
• Be educated at a good school with good teachers and friends. College funds.
• Do sports and extra curricular activities…soccer, dance, tennis, piano, track, cheer etc.
• Provide the latest and greates …iphones, ipads, apple watches, Xbox, Nintendo DS etc.
• Summer camps, Disney trips, cruises, family holidays etc.
• Other comforts.

 

While those things are great and actually quite praiseworthy, but are they the most important things?  To me, they are secondary things.  If we are not careful, these good things can distract from the MOST important gift parents can give their kids.  That BEST gift to give our children is the knowledge of truth and the skills for spiritual progression that leads to lasting and enduring happiness and peace.

How do we do that?

May I suggest we do the following.

1. Be happy and content with yourself first.  When we are happy and grateful, we will show our children how to be happy and grateful.  If your happiness is not attached to situations, things, outcomes, and worldly measures, then your kids will learn to be unattached too.  They can learn to choose happiness every day because you are an example of that.
2. Happiness comes from understanding and living the TRUTH.  The truth is we are children of God and we have a divine purpose here.  As divine beings, we have the power to choose happiness.  Self-love will develop when we internalize this divine truth.  Self-love from this divine truth helps us be happy and at peace regardless of the situation.   When we have mastered self-love, we will serve God in our capacity and find deep fulfillment.  Our children will more likely find their passions too.  Your worries about your kids’ insecurities and their need to conform will reduce because you are no longer the example of that.
3. Gift your children with the spiritual progression skills.  What skills are important for spiritual progression?  We teach them how to be self-aware and responsible for their own spiritual development.  To do this, you need to be self-aware and own your power of choice fully.  You know what you feel, what you think and believe and where you can change.  When you are constantly and contently striving to release fear-based emotions, thoughts, and beliefs, by facing them head on, and then replacing those negative emotions, thoughts, and beliefs with positive enlightened beliefs, thoughts, and emotions, your children will learn that skill too.
4. Trust your divinity and serve in your zone of genius.  Do you know what your Earthly calling is?  Are you serving in that space happily?  If not, start there.  Tap into your heart-compass and honor it’s directives.  When you are doing what you are meant to do here on Earth, you are going to have more happiness, more energy, more joy, more inspiration and power to create extraordinary outcomes.  Stay focused on your divine path.  Honor yourself and you’ll find your children will learn to honor themselves too.  They will learn to say, ‘no’ to things that hurt them, distract them, or make them sad and drained.

 

Don’t worry if you haven’t done all this yet.  As you strive to find that happiness and peace, you would show your kids how to do it too.  You don’t have to be perfect or have achieved all this success yet in order to teach it to your children.  Let your children relate to you and join you on this journey of self discovery and enlightenment.  They chose you as parents, and they are aware of your weaknesses as well as your strengths.  They are up for the necessary challenge and discomforts of growth.

Be honest and transparent with them and they will love and trust you more.  It is a journey for the whole family.  We are all evolving together.

I find that the 4 tips above helps me feel relieved and confident as a parent.  I no longer have to keep chasing the endless list society has for us.  When we have the spiritual growth skills, then we can more easily feel satisfied with whatever secondary thing we can currently provide.  In fact, we will have more of an ability to provide those other things.

I know I am more able to provide healthier food options because I am more relaxed and can create the time to cook more.

I can provide a better education for my children because I teach them learning skills and not just trivial facts.  The pressure parents have is that they have to know everything and have all the answers or they are not credible.  In this information era the most important thing is to have the skill to do research, to discern, to filter, to make connections and to apply good knowledge into every day life.  The skills are infinitely more important than memorizing trivial facts and figures.

All those problem solving, self-reliant, resilient skills can be obtained when our children know who they are and focus on divine progression.  I teach my children to tap into the power of God for guidance and divine downloads.  I teach them to trust their heart compass as I do.

We can provide more material things such as trips and toys as needed by showing our children how to manifest what we want with God’s help.  We go through the journey of creation together with them.  We pray, plan, focus on the goals and celebration of achievements of goals.

In conclusion, I hope you feel more relieved and clear on where you can go to find joy and confidence in your guidance of your precious children.  I’d love to hear more about what you think.  Please comment below.

 

Would you like to chat with me?  Please book an Energy Balancing session.