Follow Your Compass

As parents, we want our kids to be confident and trust themselves right? How can we best help them get there? The best way I know how is not just to speak hollow verbal encouragement, but to be the example ourselves of confidence. How can we trust in ourselves more?

When I say, ‘I trust myself’ what I am saying is ‘I trust the divinity within me.’ I am NOT saying I trust in what I currently know in my head. No matter how many years of learning and experiences I have on Earth, I will never ever know enough. Despite that, I can say, ‘I humbly trust the divine heart-compass within me.’ Because I know that God will guide me despite my current limited understanding and skills. I am confident that I will figure things out eventually. It doesn’t mean I will make no mistakes and do everything right and perfectly the first time.

Confidence is a matter of faith. Since I believe I am a Child of God, I must believe that God loves me and will guide me to happiness. I must believe that I can be like God. God is divine, intelligent, and powerful. Since He is all that, I must believe that He has provided a way for me to be guided in this life to success, happiness and joy. He would not have sent me here without planning it all out first. I like to call that guide, the heart-compass or intuition or the light of Christ.

The heart-compass is powerful because it helps us know right and wrong. When we do something wrong that emotion of guilt grows ever stronger and will eat us up if we keep ignoring it, right? Guilt can deteriorate our wellness and so does other fear-based emotions. On the other hand, being in harmony and aligned with the universe, being happy and faith-filled enhances one’s wellness.

The veil of forgetfulness may be over our eyes and minds but it is not over our body and not over our heart. When we stop resisting with our pride we will find God’s loving hand directing our path. We lean on the limited understanding of our own mind when we are fearful and lacking in faith. When people say ‘I don’t trust myself’ it’s not a sign of being humble. It’s actually being prideful and a lack of faith. They are not able to trust their God-given heart compass and feel Him. That’s why in the scriptures it talks about people’s hearts waxing gross, cold, and hard.¹

Let’s choose to stop resisting with our pride and leaning onto the limited understanding of our own mind. Choose to trust in your heart compass today. Follow your moral compass – your inner direction. It will lead you to your passion and purposes. When you choose to have joy, peace, and success this way, you will easily be able to trust others. We can know that if other people tap into their heart-compass they too will be guided the same way you have.

As a mother and school teacher, that was the best gift I could give children. They know I am truly confident in them because they feel it. It is not just hollow words of encouragement. It comes from my own conviction. I am confident in my own heart-compass. If I mess up, I will know and feel it and will be compelled to change course. When parents don’t trust themselves, they don’t trust their kids, and they try to be controlling and forceful. They unintentionally rob their children of their power to choose and so they create unnecessary problems and dramas in their lives. Like us, our children have a divine nature that naturally desires to be free to create happiness on their own, when something threatens that agency, we fight against it.

For example: When I trust that my kids can do well in school and they do. They automatically take responsibility for their learning and homework. They limit their own screen time to leave time to do homework. They go to bed when they should to get enough rest to do school well. And the list goes on and on. We teach them correct principles and let them govern themselves.

I trust that my kids are smart enough to resolve their own problems. When they come to me with a problem, they know I will be guiding them and coaching them but I will not take over and own their problems for them. I will ask, ‘How are you going to resolve that?’ I try to make it safe for them to make mistakes. We want them to be free to make mistakes under our roof so we can guide them when it happens to find their own inspired solutions. I often say, ‘May I make a suggestion from my experience?’ If I ever overreact and get angry, then I am subconsciously telling them I don’t trust them. This leads to fearful kids. When kids are too afraid to make mistakes they become withdrawn and lack confidence. They may end up making massive mistakes when they get older and out on their own because they haven’t learned to resolve small mistakes as a child.

Please also be aware of the things that degrading, distasteful, fearful or negative around you. If you let it be there long enough it will be toxic to your soul. Your heart-compass will be uncomfortable. Remember you don’t have to do it on your own. Below are some essential oils to help support you as you learn to trust in your heart-compass more.

Recommended essential oils to clear the mind and heart. Clear your mind, follow your heart, and do what you feel is right.