What is being attached?
Being attached is when you attach your happiness and joy to situations, outcomes, people, or materials things. For example, you may say, “I’ll be happy when the house renovations are done.” Or “I can’t be happy when my kids fight.” Or “I just can’t relax until my kids are all ok.” Or “How can I be happy when others are not.” Or “I’ll be happy when we have a new house, I lose weight and the kids graduate.”
These situations or outcomes that you hold as conditions to your happiness makes it difficult for you to progress spiritually, physically, and emotionally. It disrupts the flow of progression. You essentially are telling your subconscious mind that it can’t be happy now until a particular condition is met.
Why is being attached bad?
With people who attach their happiness to things, situations, and outcomes, in order to be happy, they are often tempted to be controlling, overreacting, and manipulating. This behavior is often the result of unresolved fears. Many people are unaware of their fears and unaware of this controlling behavior. Many are unaware that their emotions drives actions and that they can control their emotions by recognizing their subconscious thoughts and beliefs.
The results we may have if we continue to be attached to situation, outcome, people, or material things:
- have hurt feelings when people don’t do what you want them to do…it feels like they don’t care.
- unnecessary family discord and relationship issues because of the power struggle
- people don’t feel safe or free to choose around you without being criticised or judged but to you, you see it as your way of caring
- people hide from you and not free to share themselves with you
- people rebel or have a need to be contrary to you
- people blame you for their issues and hold you responsible for their happiness because you’ve let them in the past
- people who become numb so they don’t feel your anger, sadness, or negativity
- people who are unempowered because they have learned to give their power of choice away
- controlling people create children who are insecure, who feel guilty and responsible for other people’s happiness
- can’t make decisions confidently my themselves
- are a perfectionist so you have a hard time being happy
- health issues such as breast issues, allergies, blood pressure issues, heart issues
Here are some common fears:
- You worry that if things don’t go your way, it will make you to look bad. Fear that if things are not perfect then it reflects badly on you.
- You imagine that disaster will happen if things don’t work out the way you think.
- You may subconsciously believe you are not a good mother, wife, etc. and that if things go bad, then it confirms that you aren’t good enough.
- You fear that people don’t know how to do it right and that you need to help them.
- You fear you are not important enough
How can we stop being so attached?
Working out solutions to resolve the fears will help us stop being so attached. First of all though we need to un-attach all those things we worry and stress about from our heart.
- Choose to be happy and grateful now. Make up your mind that you can be happy and grateful because God wants you to be and that you are designed to be happy.1
- Unattach your heart and happiness to all things and put God first. Re-prioritize what is in the heart through faith in God. Make sure God comes first in your heart. Do the Abraham-Isaac Challenge. Allow God’s love and light to fill your soul so that you are satisfied and fulfilled. When you are there, then you don’t need to be validated by others and situations. Refer to the 6 fundamental human needs. This way you feel secure and confident in yourself and not need a situation or condition to make you feel better about yourself.
- Decide to be ok with things going either way. Be ok if it works out, and be ok if things don’t work out the way you want. Strengthen your trust and faith by reasoning with yourself that you believe God is intelligent, loving, fair, and powerful. See both outcomes and how with God things will work out anyways. Believe that if you do things in faith as inspired by divine powers, that things will work out as it should according to God’s will. It is His world after all. Trust that God’s got it no matter what.
- Resolve your fears by strengthening your faith in God & in your own divine powers. Do the Fear Setting activity and Energy Balancing sessions on yourself to find the root cause of each fear. Take some time to intentionally guide your thoughts and beliefs to faith and courage. Working out fears will make it so that you don’t focus on it anymore. When we focus on our fears, we are subconsciously creating it with our powers. We are creative beings so let’s not haphazardly create because of your lack of focus.
- Trust yourself, others, and trust God. Believe that they can figure things out like you did with God’s help. Be confident in God’s confidence because He wouldn’t have sent us here if He knew we couldn’t succeed. Allow others room to make mistakes knowing that the power of the Atonement of Jesus Christ is sufficient for them and you. Lovingly give others opportunities to use their power of choice freely. Love and encourage your children, family members and friends to feel their heart and make choices. Make it safe for you and others to make mistakes.
Essential oils that may help with attachment issues:
Oregano, Thyme, Rose, Geranium, Cypress
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