Do you feel you lack confidence in doing your doTERRA business?

I use to wish that I could be brave and confident like other people, who seemed like they are naturally born with confidence. I didn’t realize that we can develop it. Here is how I developed confidence.

Here are some simple steps you can take to develop confidence as you share doTERRA:

Focus on others
Start with what you know (share what you know now – it is valuable)
Make and implement a plan to learn more
Start with your those that love you
Practice – teach more, do more. As you do, you will feel better about doing.
Work within your instructional level

Focus on others

The number one piece of advice I wish to share is this:

Serve others with all your heart! When you loose yourself in loving service, you find yourself.

When we are so worried about what others think of us, we become paralyzed with fear. When and if this happens, I say to myself, “burn Jade on the alter!” (burn that EGO on the alter!) and then I pray to be an instrument in God’s hands. I pray, “What can I do for this person?” I concentrate on the person/people I want to help and then I am able to get out of my own way because this is not about me!

Everyone deserves a chance to know about essential oils. Think about this: What if you weren’t introduced to the essential oils? How sad you would be if you didn’t have the essential oils in you life today! My whole family has been so abundantly blessed on so many levels by the essential oils. What right do I have to deny others of this same blessing simply because I lack self-love??

How to stop worrying about what others think? When we love ourselves the way God loves us, then we become less Self-Critical. When you are less self-critical, you are no longer broadcasting an invitation to others to criticize you. Magic! Do you feel God’s love for you? Allow Him in! Pray to Him. Smell Frankincense & Sandalwood oil.

When I feel God’s love for me, I have so much LOVE to GIVE others. I can not contain it. I want to develop more God-like LOVE for others.

“Don’t be selfish!” –Emily Wright

Emily Wright, one of the owners of dōTERRA, reminded a dōTERRA Wellness Advocate not to be selfish. The lady was quite content with keeping the knowledge of the power of essential oils to yourself and not sharing with others. That is being selfish isn’t it?

I have found myself as I learned to step out of my own way. I didn’t know all the things I can do until God showed me! All this because I allowed God to take over! I feel so confident speaking to people now because I am just the instrument!

If I ever get nervous, I ask myself, “Am I thinking about me again?” OR “How am I practicing to love like God when I hide?”

Essential oils: Wintergreen, Lavender, Petitgrain

Start with what you know

Be honest and share what you know whatever stage you are at. No one expects more out of you than what you can offer. Be clear on your objective.

Your objective is: Share the Hope of Essential Oils.

Remember your main objective is simply sharing and creating hope in people’s hearts! You don’t have to be the expert and convince them intellectually on every aspect. Help people understand enough to have hope that their situation might be able to change for the better.

As your knowledge grows you will expand your ability to help others. No matter where you are at, you will always have more to learn. Your best practice will always be sharing your STORY and testifying how you feel about the oils, holistic health approach and healing. No one can dispute your beliefs and feelings about the oils.

Do not feel responsible for healing people! Even though I have become an Energy Healing practitioner, I have to remind myself often that I can only do my part, and to allow others the opportunity to own their own power to choose. Allow them to take the responsible for their own health. Don’t rob people of the opportunity and satisfaction of healing themselves.

Don’t rob people of the opportunity and satisfaction of healing themselves.

Allow people to discover and experience the essential oils for themselves. Show them the book. Create opportunities for discovery learning. That way you don’t need to be the source of knowledge. The pressure is off.

Essential oils: Balance, Cardamom

Plan to learn more

Identify what it is that you don’t know and write it down, then systematically learn each thing. Writing things down is a way to invite the universe to help you, too.

Also, you will know what to learn as the issues and concerns are presented to you. You actually don’t have to over think it. It will come.

Be humble and teachable. This makes it easier for your up-line to help you learn what it is you need to learn and change for the better.

I feel constrained to speak to team members because they have such as strong resistance to change. Even though they say they want to change, their energy is fearful of the pain of rejection or failure, so I don’t feel comfortable saying what I want to say. In fact, I feel that they have already ‘switched off’ anyways, so there is no point saying any more. I sense that in their eyes and my heart feels that they’ve disconnected. I’ve been doing this long enough to see pretty clearly what it is that is in people’s way. I allow people to change and learn when they are ready. Nonetheless, the beauty of it all is that people eventually change when they are sick and tired of ‘grounds hog day’ repeating. If people will continue using the oils, the oils will help them change anyways. The teachable team members grow and change quickly.

When you are open to learning, you will find solutions and information you are looking for.

When I started dōTERRA, I spent evenings and my kids’ nap time reading, watching essential oil videos, and listening to conference calls. I invested in education at conventions and retreats. It wasn’t easy. In fact, it was a huge sacrifice and stretched our family but we did it prayerfully and now it has paid off many times over. Ben and I try to bring much of that learning and information to everyone in many forms: My website posts, online meetings, mentoring sessions, local face-to-face classes, podcasts, YouTube videos, Facebook and other social media platforms.

Essential oils: Oregano, Thyme

Start with your those that love you!

Honestly share the essential oils with the people who love you. Share what you have discovered. You can freely share with the people who love you because you feel safe with them. As your confidence grows share with others.

I can’t tell you how many times, I hear people use the excuse, “I am not good at selling!” Or some form of that excuse. This goes back to the Focus on Serving others topic. This is a sign that we are thinking of yourself too much.

Do you picture a Mr. Wormwood like creep when you think of sales people? Because we judge salespeople so harshly, we are so fearful that others might judge us in that way too. Lets remove the negative associations of sales people.

Do you think the typically sales person = dishonest, cold, pushy, scheming, inconsiderate, time-waster, desperate, tricksters?

Guess what? There are great sales people that have sold you things and you didn’t even realize. Teachers & religious leaders are one of the best sales people I know. Doctors are great too. You know why they are good? Because they meet your needs, they do it out of love and concern for you!

Let’s redefine your version of sales!

You honestly and lovingly meet people’s needs. Give them the information they need.
You connect to people and let them choose from the choices (information) you’ve presented.
You release the need to control the situation or the outcome.
You are guided by God. You will not turn away someone in need.

When I know that I am doing my job right by God, I am confident because I answer only to God. I did the work He asked me to do.

When people feel that you care for them, they never feel like you are ‘selling’ to them. The truth is you never need to ‘sell’ to people.

There are going to be people who are so riddled with fear, they blind themselves. If you meet these people, share what you know but don’t be too eager to enroll them. Their negative phobia may poison your business. Be confident in the growth of your business that you don’t enroll just any body.

Practice doing

Confidence comes from practice. Until you get enough practice, you shouldn’t prematurely conclude that you can’t do it. Some people tell me that they can’t do it because they don’t have confidence. Confidence comes from doing! It will not come by you simply thinking it. Teach 25 Intro class then see if you are not confident then!! It gets easier the longer you do it. Your attitude towards the business, others and yourself will solidify over time. Choose your path because practice makes permanent. You will never have a perfect presentation so let that expectation go.

“Practice makes Permanent” –Justin Harrison

Louise Hay says, she won’t allow self critical thoughts or self scolding after any of her presentations. Blaming yourself for not doing a good job gives away your power. You need your power to make changes.

Affirmations:

“I get better and better at this business each day!”

“It gets easier every time.”

“My confidence grows each time I practice.”

“It is safe for me to make mistakes.”

Essential oils: Forgive, Console, Motivate

Instructional level

People remain stagnant because of their fears of struggling. No one wants to be drowning in difficult situations. You also know that no growth happens in your comfort zone right? Just outside your comfort zone is your instructional zone where learning happens. Regularly challenge yourself to do something new. You don’t have to go too far outside your comfort zone to do this so relax!

As you challenge yourself regularly and your skills expand, your confidence will naturally grow.